Drug addiction reduces a person’s ability to live a normal life. Addicts are generally, unable to finish projects, complete tasks, finish a school, hold a stable job or sustain a healthy relationship. They often have undefined and unrealistic ideas and plans of what they want to do in life. They also use intimidation, manipulation, emotional blackmail, threats, and violence on anyone who gets in their way. Sometimes, they intentionally cause arguments with loved ones, so as to further justify their need to go back to drugs. Then, they beg for forgiveness and promise that it won’t happen again, and the circle continues. They get into increased debt, which puts them under pressure to raise money for drugs by stealing, pawning or selling anything of value. They may begin criminal activities, join antisocial groups, or go into some sort of “entertainment” ventures as a covert avenue for a “lifestyle” that is conducive for drug use.
Generally the family becomes fed-up with the addict’s problem: they are tired, confused, and sad. They might become anxious, nervous, depressed, irritable, angry with themselves, and constantly wondering where they got it wrong as parents. Some think it is all their fault and lament over the future of the addict: what can they do to make them stop, how will they handle the situation, what happens next? Frantically trying to manage the situation, they begin hiding money and valuables, searching the addict’s room and belongings for drugs and associated paraphernalia, snooping into who the addict’s friends are, and scheming to control and out-manipulate the addict.
Our hearts goes out to all the families and individuals going through these problems presently. It is emotionally and financially tasking to have to cope with this situation. But what can you do? Kill yourself? For how long would you continue to beat yourself for the addict’s mess? Rather, try reaching out to families who have similar issues to deal with. Often sharing your experiences is helpful in the process of recovery. Continue to seek professional help for the addict, explore the options of Rehab Centers, and seek the support of NGOs or Faith-Based Organizations.
We hope that all efforts being made to help them shall yield good fruits. But see if you can firmly explain to the addict that their addiction is their own problem. Hence, they have choices: they get help to recover, or continue their miserable existence. They will need to accept the advice and suggestions of the experts if they choose to pull through, no matter how long it takes. The journey to eventual recovery begins with the addicts themselves.