Lust is the excessive desire for one’s own pleasure, and when a desire arise in us, it is soon replaced by another desire in an insatiable loop of greed. Our intelligence can assist us in our pursuit of the desirable, but without strong will, smartness alone cannot enable us to resist our desires. In other words, knowledge and intelligence can fool us to think that we are in control of our lives, but on a closer look, not many people can overcome the demands and dictates of desires, which is capable of driving us into frustration, immorality and infidelity.
Infidelity has adversely affected so many marriages. For many, they have been the one cheated on, while others were the ones that stepped out of their marriage. People who had stronger sexual interests, more permissive sexual values, lower subjective satisfaction with their spouse, and greater sexual opportunities are more likely to commit adultery. These haram adventures, which range from promiscuity to prostitution, have resulted into broken homes, frustration, depression, and disgrace.
Despite these bitter fruits of infidelity, men are persistently “grabby”, while women have continued to be “snatchy”. Are the “women outside” so desperate to get married to the few men available? Why these “male poaching” and “female rustling”? Could it be because there are more marriageable single ladies than there are marriageable men? Could we blame these excess single ladies on monogamy? And when we blame men for “chasing” women, are the women not consenting cheats?
This audio lecture looks into the problem of lust, desire and infidelity as serious moral issues that can be complex, dangerous, and scandalous.
TITLE: “Lust, Desire and Infidelity”
SOUND QUALITY: High
LENGTH: 1 hour, 52 minutes, 30 seconds.